January 8th, 2016,
My boss at Kelsey Hayes, Bill Byers, had a saying on his desk that, I think,
applies to me here now. The hurrier I go the behinder I get. Ha! Life has been
going too fast and I am already behind and the new year has already gone into
first gear.
Let me summarize it this way. Katrina was on an emotional
roller coaster as the school closed and she had to say goodbye to all the kids.
Tough job. Also, we spent a good bit of time together going around from family
to family saying goodbye—all people that had taken her into their homes and
hearts. She had become part of mor families than she could count. And I became
more and more proud of her.
For me, it was a Christmas rush, preparing Masses and
liturgies for one feast after another, in both languages, English and Zulu. It
takes time, you know, to think things through and then to give a decent sermon
or homily on such special days.
Again, before and after Christmas, we visited sometimes 3 or
4 families in one day. Then came the departure day. One of the families that
had taken her in as if she was their daughter, Logan and Rajes Govender (and
their son) took us all to the airport in a bigger car than I have. We got there
in plenty of time and had a cup of coffee and some time to chat.We waited,
purposely, up till into boarding time so that we wouldn’t have to look each
other in the eye and start you know what. We said our goodbyes quickly before
tears could come and then she was off and out of sight. Then we were left to
our own emptiness. That was the 29th of December.
She had tried to put in some sim cards that would work in
the States and even here but there was no communication for a long time, except
for one quick notice (I don’t know how she sent it, maybe borrowed someone’s
phone) that she had been very rudely served a document that said that she was
an “undesirable person” (persona non grata) and would not be allowed to return
to south Africa for five years. They asked her to sign this document, which she
didn’t understand, so she asked them what she was signing and that’s what they
told her. They also said that she could appeal, period. Damn!!! But then ,
silence. Eventually we connected again and she had drafted a letter to
somewhere appealing this decision. She sent it off by email to some address but
never got an answer back as to whether it was received or not. So we are trying
to follow up on that now.
In the meantime, I have been back where I started in 1967,
at St. Mary’s hospital for Mass every morning and visiting the sick there. I
was asked by the chaplain to take his place while he went on home leave and for
a retreat till 27th January. Then I discovered that he won’t be
back. He has been assigned to another parish far away from here. I suspect that
they are thinking that I will just slide in and take over the responsibility of
doing the job there but I won’t. I have too many other irons in the fire and
don’t really want to be confined to just that job. Am I selfish? Perhaps, but I
don’t want to have the responsibility of being the full time chaplain there,
although I love the work. As I said, I have too many other irons in the fire.
It has been brutally hot here in the Durban area, 35C not
uncommon, and up to 28C in the house the whole night. That is in the 90’s, at
least, in Farenheit. Very uncomfortable. And we are also suffering a drought
and there are some towns and villages that have to have water trucked in. I
can’t imagine a city then size of Durban, with the townships and suburbs,
running out of water. It would be an ubelieveable catastrophe.
Well, I am now concentrating on getting my home leave trip
organized properly as I don’t want to miss anyone. I will be checking on
addresses and phone numbers, hoping that most of them are the same as last time
but having the new ones ready to go.
Love to you all. 2016 will be another year of great
adventure. So many not problems but challenges---the middle East,
Africa, gun control, climate change and the whole ecological earth
system, etc. etc. etc. Wow!
We’d better not lose contact with the creator because we
will need a lot of enlightenment to deal with all these challenges. But, as
Obama’s slogan said, Yes we can. We just
have to make up our moral and political minds and put our noses to the
grindstone and do it. Pope Francis has given us all a big push. Thank God for
him.
Hey, I am going to
leave you now. Stay well. Grow in the Spirit. Love and Peace, Cas.
January 28, 2016
I need more discipline to keep
this blog updated.Well, here goes.
The chaplain at St. Mary’s
Hospital asked me if I could help out while he was on a retreat and on his home
leave. This started back in December 22nd. You heard some of it already. Well it somehow
got into a morning routine. I get up at 4 or 4:30, take a shower, or, if I took
a shower the afternoon before, have a kind of rub-down wash concentrating on my
crooked back. Ha! Then, if the internet is working (on and off), I check the
emails and see if there are any interesting articles that I can share with
others as well. I have already read over the readings for the next day and am
prepared to make a short 2 minute homily, usually reflections on some of the
words of the readings. I have been going down to the kitchen to have a bowl of
bran flakes with a small handful of Muesli (keeps the pipes cleaner, so they
say, but not always so). I usually have about a half hour to do some meditating
before heading for the hospital (via the nice little Hyundai) at 25 past 5. I
get the altar organized, and then have a few minutes to get my thoughts
together for the celebration of the Mass.
There are usually some
communions, so, after Mass one of the sisters accompanies (and guides) me to
those patients who would like to receive communion. By the time we are finished the sisters have
already gone to breakfast and I join them and we have a little natter. After
breakfast (it has become routine now) I go back to visit the patients who received communion, find out their names,
pray with and for them, and greet everyone in the ward (usuall y there are 8 in
a ward.) reminding them that whatever
church they may belong to , we pray for them each day at our morning
service (Mass), hoping that God will listen to our prayers and help them to a
speedy recovery so that they can get back home to their famiies. This is
usually in Zulu, but sometimes there are patients who only know English, so we
chat a bit with them as well. This got to be the routine I followed from Monday
to Friday up till day before yesterday. The old chaplain has been re-assigned to
a far away mission and someone has been asked to fill in for him till they find
a permanent replacement. I think that it is crucial that anyone who is going to
be a hospital chaplain must know that his job is to go from ward to ward,
visiting, encouraging, praying with, bringing some of the good news of Jesus to
whoever and letting them know that you are available to listen to , counsel,
whatever to help them in their very vulnerable situation there in the hospital.
The other morning, one of the
patients ( I know her name but don’t know if she wants me to use it) who looked
very bad, and was on and off oxygen for a whole week and a bit more, wasn’t in
bed when we came to bring her communion. I was disappointed as we moved off to
the next patient, but, lo and behold, here she comes after having brushed her
teeth, walking (unbelievable). So we turned back and joyfully gave her
communion. I rejoiced with her after breakfast and told her how pleased I was
to see her up and about, praise the Lord. I am going to take a break here…..
It is Sunday Jan. 31, and I left
yesterday for Mthatha at 8am and arrived about 1:15pm. I delivered a huge
crucifix to one family, took a parcel to the CPS sisters at Ikwezi Lokusa
(morning star), visited an older confrere , Fr. Francis Jank and then came out
here to Libode (about a 45 min. drive from Mthatha) where Fr. Winfried is
parish priest. We had a long discussion as to why so many young people (mostly
young but not all young) have given up on the “institutional Church” but continue
to believe in God and live good lives trying to be good people (Christians?)
and doing their little bit to make this a better world. Any Ideas?
But to jump back to where we left
off (at the hospital).
I forgot to mention a very
traumatic but very happy wedding on Jan. 2nd. A young couple (I have
known he girl since she was a youngster—Ziningi Mabaso) came to me back in
October to ask what they have to do to organize a church wedding, and if I
could take the wedding on Jan. 2nd. I told them that the usual place
to start was with her parish priest. (She is from near Mariannhill, a place
called Klaarwater but both she and her fiancé are living and working in Cape
Town. ) She managed to catch her parish priest immediately after Mass back then
and started the paper work for their church wedding. However, when they tried
to contact the parish priest to continue and complete the paper work, he was
unable to be contacted. They flew up twice from Cape Town ( a bit expensive)
but didn’t succeed in seeing him so they talked to their priest in Cape Town,
who finished the paper work for them. I
also reminded them that I am not a marriage officer so they must go and
register their marriage at the Magistrate’s office or at Home Affairs. Then we
would do the church/God thing after that. They tried unsuccessfully to get to
home affairs ( I guess that Magistrates’ are not the usual way any more) as
they were told that all the offices were closed till the new year sometime in
Feb. as they were being renovated. Can you believe it!!! I checked with a
Bishop in CT and a priest friend and they both confirmed that it was true and
that Home Affairs is hopeless. So What’s new. Well I decided that if worse
comes to worst, I would conduct the church part of the wedding and would tell them
to just go to Home affairs and get themselves registered there. However, I
wanted to check with a bishop friend
here in Durban where this was kosher or not, but I was going to do it anyway,
as they had already found a church who would allow us to have a wedding
ceremony in their church, not far from where the reception would be help after
the wedding ceremoy. The bishop told me that I could easily find a priest there
at the monastery who is a marriage officer and he could do that. I breathed a
sigh of relief to hear such a (what I thought) simple solution to a scary
problem. I organized a meeting with the priest at the monastery and them for
the day before the church ceremony. It happened. Then, the next day, when I
went to get the civil ceremony copy to
give to the parish priest at the church, I was told that, no, he, the priest,
had to be there at the church ceremony to witness to it and get them all to
sign. Holy Moses. I thought that everything was taken care of. Now what! I
begged him to cancel whatever he had to do that day and please come with me to
do the job from the civil point of view. Thankfully , he agreed, and came along
with me. Otherwise, I don’t know what would have happened. In fact he was a
special blessing since he is also a musician and he wound up playing the usual
wedding march and a few other things during the service which helped it be
alive. The only problem was that, he is 83 yrs. old, and while I was looking
forward to the dancing after the meal reception, he was tired and wanted to go
home. I had to respect him so, I missed out on the dancing. This is the second
time this has happened and soon I am going to lose my touch. Ha!
Just a mention of a few other
highlights of this January’s events. I met a friend from Austria and we spent
some time together and as a result, he wound up helping one of the women who is
trying to build a house, with some funds, for which she is very grateful. I
used some of your donations for that same purpose. Now she is up to the roof
and we want to find some more funds to finish off the roof.
I also attended the jubilees of
the FSF sisters, down the South Coast. I have known many of them for lots of
years and I even had a chance to visit one of them who welcomed me when I first
arrived in South Africa at my first assignment in a place called Harding. She
is well on in age now and was super happy to know that a priest friend still
remembered her and felt honored by the visit. It was I who was honored to spend
some time with a real old faithful soul, friend of the Lord.
I’ve been back to the Orthopedic
Surgeon, Dr. Naidoo, who checked and was satisfied that the troublesome knee is
doing OK. He gave me some stuff to build up the cartilage and an
anti-inflammatory to take from time to time to ease the discomfort (they say,
pain, but it is easily bearable---some of you know what I am talking
about---old age sort of stuff).
Since the weather has been very
hot this month, and because there was a good bit of rain for a few days, the
grass was busy doing its thing. So, I spent a lot of time cutting the grass
especially the grass that grows on the side of the hills where the usual lawn
mower can’t go. But, I discovered, that after an hour and maybe a bit more, I
was running out of energy, sweating like crazy, so I had to come in, have some
water and a cup of coffee, watch the Al Jazeera news for a half hour and then
go back, if I felt up to it, and continue the cutting. After lunch, I usually,
(if I was going to do it) went straight to work (starting about 1pm) till about
2:30 and then did the same, cleaned up the machine, had some water and a cup of
coffee , watched another half hour of news, till 3:30 then took a shower and Skyped with a
friend at 4pm (if there was a signal—very frustrating, on and off, now you have
it, now you don’t). Then say my evening
prayers, get the table ready for supper, watch the news from 6:30 to 7:15 and
then spend the rest of the evening preparing thoughts for the Mass the next
morning, as well as the workshops I have agreed to give on the two new
encyclicals of Pope Francis, Laudato Si (Caring for our Common Home) , the
Gaudium Evangelii (the Joy of the Gospel---how he sees what the church is and
what is should be doing to bring love, mercy, hope and peace to our world) and
finally, Justice and Peace, especially as you see in in Luke’s Gospel. But, by
9am, especially if I have been cutting
grass and am really tired, I just say that’s it and hit the sack. Very hot, so
no blankets, even a sheet is sometimes too much.
I have to stop now as I am going to lunch. Fr.
Winfried just came back from his Xhosa mass at 10:30. I took the English Mass
this morning at 8am and enjoyed being able to do the whole thing in English.
See you later.
Feb. 4, 2016
I am picking up again. We had a
Board Meeting at Sabelani Home at 3pm with Fr. Guy’s guys. Each gave a report
as to where he was at in his work or studies and then we assessed the situation
as to how long we could go on before people got married or found jobs far away
or whatever and what should happen to the house and grounds when people have
been scattered and are starting new lives. There is no doubt that their lives
have been immeasurably enriched by their upbringing by Fr. Guy. I guess that
everything must come to a close but the repercussions will last for
generations. We had supper together before I went off for the next meeting at
Abbot Francis Home.
The meeting started on Sunday
evening and lasted until 9pm on Monday. Lots of things were discussed,
especially the financial situation which is precarious. (It seems that this is
true where ever I have been with all communities.) But the main thing is that
elections were held and a new team was chosen to lead and guide the Mthatha Province
for the next three years. The world situation has changed so much in the last
few years that it will be a real challenge for them to find the best way
forward. On Tuesday the three young Congolese novices took their temporary
vows. One is being transferred to Zambia to continue his studies there and the
other two will remain here and continue their studies in South Africa. Two of
our confreres made their permanent vows, one from Congo and one from South
Africa. The life of the community moves on.
I spent Wednesday and will spend
today visiting people, especially at Landsend and Bedford, where people are
struggling, and will use some of the donations I received from some of you for
helping them (some school fees, a water tank, finishing the roof, etc. etc.
etc. ) The lack of water is a real problem. We really need lots of rain. Many
of the dams that provide water are dry or almost dry and this is true
throughout South Africa. On river, the Orange river, like our Mississippi, that
is the main river taking water from the mountains to the West and the Atlantic
Ocean, is completely dry. Unheard of.
Well, that’s enough of updating
you. I am now planning my home leave and fine tuning who I can visit and when
and where. Many of you are on my list and I really look forward to that. In the
meantime, I hope that the new year is treating you with love and respect. Me too. Love and Peace, Fr. Cas.
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